I think Father’s Day is becoming increasingly more difficult to handle. Not just for me, either.
As I scroll through my mental list of close friends, I haven’t yet come to anyone with an untarnished experience this Father’s Day. (Ok, I just remembered one.) As I think of my friends, family, and self, either our dad has passed away, or the relationship was bad, or in some cases it’s both. Whatever the reason that brought us to this point, it hurts when Dad is not around — especially on Father’s Day. For the people I know and love who have experienced a living-yet-absent father, that pain is part of everyday life.
For those of us who miss our dad on Father’s Day because he died, we can find some refreshment and peace in our good memories. Particularly for those of us who profess faith in Jesus, the comfort and support that we felt from our dad can easily translate into that notion of God, the Father. But, the move from an uncomfortable relationship with our earthly father to a comforting relationship with our Heavenly Father can be a little more tricky. In that case, we have to let go of some beliefs we may carry with us that are contrary to the way God, our Heavenly Father, operates. If you wouldn’t want to be accused of being just like your dad, then maybe God deserves that same benefit from you: don’t assume that God is like anybody else you know. If you were blessed with a dad who modeled godly principles and lifestyle, then appreciate and recognize that as a blessing. But please understand that you could also have a faulty perspective of God’s ways and motivations, based even on that good-but-limited model.
In other words, all I’m saying is . . . God is much bigger than your daddy! He’s bigger than your mama, too! (Not necessarily saying “yo mama’s so big …) God’s love for us is entirely real. It’s so super-big. It doesn’t have the consequences of sin attached to it that we experience in our human relationships. God’s love surpasses all of that! God loves us so much that He chose to become like us in order to be with us, to teach us, to suffer like us, and to do the one thing that none of us could do just so we could be with him forever.
If your own Father’s Day status reads, “It’s Complicated,” then I want to wrap this concept of God’s love around you like a big bear hug. May the warmth, the comfort and the peace of God’s great big love put a mega-watt smile on your face this Father’s Day!
Now, who’s your daddy?! (I apologize, but I could NOT resist that!)
4 thoughts on “Father’s Day Status: It’s Complicated”
Blogmaster, this is a great and comforting attitude to have, even, as you said if you had/have a great dad. If he is a godly man then one has a small though finite representation of Our God. If Daddy wasn’t or isn’t so great then we can find refuge and shelter under the WINGS of the Everlasting Father.
Sandy very well said …… And because I knew and loved you dad……I know he certainly tried to model the love of God for all of you. As a parent I have not always been a success at that……..but because of family love we all survived. What I marvel at everyday is how much I feel the love of God in my life. It feels good everyday. I like reading about you relationship with life. Love you ….
Dynamic blog, again SS. This is so reassuring and comforting and touching and tender and True. Thank you!
Thanks Kaye and MG! Sometimes we get so tangled up with our concepts and connections. It’s good to contemplate the absolute “otherness” of God. And then, even in that “otherness,” to recognize the love that bridged the gap to reach us… Astounding! No other love we experience is comparable.